Walking slowly in the street, I saw an acquaintance 10 meters away, so I was in a panic to avoid the sight. I silently recited “don’t find me, don’t find me”. Then I hid my eyes on the screen of my mobile phone which had been out of power Have you ever been familiar with this scene? In recent years, the word “social phobia” has repeatedly entered the public’s view. More and more young people label themselves as “social phobia”. Recently, our newspaper, together with the Chinese Academy of Social Sciences and social networking platforms, launched a survey to analyze the current social situation of young people. More than 4000 valid questionnaires were collected from users aged 18 to 35. 40.2% of them said that they had different degrees of “social phobia”, 52.7% thought they lacked social skills, and 55.6% were not confident about their own conditions. The social love and fear of this generation of young people is hidden in the data. Is “social fear” a disease? Or is it some kind of signal released by youth through self mockery of “social fear”? < / P > < p > according to the survey data, more than 40% of the respondents claimed to be “social phobia” and believed that they had different degrees of social problems. It is worth noting that these young people who are pressed by “social fear” still have the burden of “taking off the single”. 62.4% of boys and 78.8% of girls showed passive degree when they met the opposite sex. Among them, 21.2% of boys and 30.2% of girls said “wait for the other party to speak first”. 23.1% of boys and 33.6% of girls had no choice but to choose “low profile secret love”. < / P > < p > this may also be one of the reasons why the problem of young people’s marriage and love has risen to the level of “national concern” in recent years. “Love and marriage is the result of choosing in the process of social interaction, and it is an advanced form of social intercourse.” Deng Xiquan, director of the Youth Research Institute of China Youth Research Center, said that “social phobia” is likely to have a more obvious negative impact on social channels, social skills and social effects, thus putting young people at a disadvantage in the marriage competition and increasing the difficulty of marriage and love success. < p > < p > according to Wen Hua, a national second-class psychological counselor, there are essential differences between “social phobia” in medical concepts and “social phobia” in sociology. The former needs rigorous clinical diagnosis, while the latter refers to a living state. At present, most of the youth’s “social phobia” are not pathological. In the eyes of professionals, most of the youth’s “social phobia” are just self mockery or humor in their own spirit, but their impact is visible to the naked eye. The survey found that 34.3% of the respondents said that social barriers had an impact on their lives, and 14.2% of the respondents said that the impact was very great. “Social fear” people occasionally “forced business” is also really not to avoid, they consciously avoid social contact. According to Sun Ping, an assistant researcher at the Institute of Journalism and communication, Chinese Academy of Social Sciences, the generalization of the word “social fear” has rich social significance. First of all, it can be interpreted as the manifestation of young people’s personalized attitude: those who can chat will talk crazily, and those who can’t chat will simply put up a “social fear” label to avoid it. Secondly, it can also be understood as young people’s “Counteraction” to “social generalization”. “They seem to be trapped in the current social system, which has invaded every aspect of life, so they need a” shield “to help them escape Of course, the lack of social skills learning, experience and social self-confidence are also the reasons for the existence of “social phobia”. In the survey, 52.7% of the respondents said they lacked communication skills, 55.6% said they were not confident enough, and 38.3% of them attributed to their introversion. At the same time, the pace of modern people’s life is fast, the social relations are not strong, and the social relations outside the circle are weak, so the “sense of suspension” has also become one of the reasons for their social obstacles and even “social phobia”. < p > < p > < p > < p > according to the report on insight into the life of young people living alone in 2020, as many as 38.56% of the respondents said that living alone is because they “enjoy solitude and like freedom”, and the lack of social interaction in living alone also leads to the weakening of social skills. It seems that living alone and “social fear” are mutually causal, and the downward spiral trend makes young people “paint a prison”. As the topic of “social fear” and related social anxiety are getting more and more attention among young people, the impact of “social fear” has no obvious trend of digestion in the short term. < p > < p > Wenhua told reporters that “social fear” is not only a proposition of loneliness, but also an anxiety about the sense of distance. The data of this survey also echoed her view to some extent: people are not totally afraid of social networking, and 43.6% of respondents prefer the non-contact communication mode of social software. Especially under the influence of the epidemic situation in the first half of this year, “cloud life” has become more prominent. But at the same time, virtual social networking has found a new way to adapt to the “social phobic” youth. They share their new “social etiquette” on the Internet. If they can type, don’t send voice, if they can make voice, if they can, they don’t want to meet offline. They expect to use this way to protect their acceptable social distance. In addition, Wenhua also provides an idea: in the Internet age, “social fear” as a derivative of many people’s living conditions, has its rationality. But before reaching the pathological severity, young people can learn to coexist peacefully with them and learn to go from online communication to real life. < / P > < p > “first of all, social skills are not inborn. They can only be cultivated and promoted under the support, education, guidance and creation of a good peer communication environment by family and school. Secondly, the society needs to provide the place, path and space for the contemporary youth’s social communication, and change their passive situation and negative mentality in the process of social communication. ” Deng Xiquan said that the most important thing for youth groups is to have a more scientific understanding of the importance of social interaction in their own development, get rid of the inferiority complex or fear of social intercourse, and gradually expand their communication scope through kinship, learning, career and geography, so as to conduct social communication more actively and confidently. Global Tech